So, I have the worst luck with "friends" in the place I'm currently stationed - correction - FEMALE friends. I've got one actual female friend and right now, she's fighting the joys of pregnancy while dealing with a 1 and a 3 year old. But this post isn't about her - I simply ADORE her and will drop everything to help her. It's the other ones....I've got my "friends only when they need something" - by that I mean, they don't talk to me except through facebook and its to either like something I post, to make themselves look better in some way/shape/form or to ask for something. I've even decided to title them Hen 1 and Hen 2.
Hen 1 only talks to me via Facebook after being my right hand for girl scouts for 2 years and talking to each other daily about everything.....now we have very limited convos that consist of her only saying "OH no" or "Yay" and the mandatory "Like". UGH! To think, I was there for Hen 1 for some very hard parts of her life and now, convos consist of TWO WORDS! Yet I am eternally trying to talk to her in some way shape or form cause she was a great friend.
Hen 2 only contacts me outside of facebook to ask for things. Last year I disrupted my Christmas plans to invite her and her children to my house as her hubby was supposed to deploy that day - yet had his flight pushed back 2 days so she called to tell us about the sudden changed and we invited him to come as well. Let's just say that her children traumatized K-girl and Little A as well as Big A. Last summer this same woman decided to go out of town for an extended vacation. Hen 1 was only able to watch her house for a few days so then Hen 2 asked if I could keep an eye on her house....which meant I had to feed her outside cat, feed her 2 fish, feed and clean the cage of her 2 ferrets, keep an eye on the house and mow once a week if the guy that was supposed to mow didn't stop by. I did it - while working crazy shifts since the hubby was gone and my grandmother was staying with me. I lost sleep to mow the lawn - I even bagged and hauled the lawn clippings to the curb - something I don't even do at my house. I was thanked when she came home but after that, I was forgotten.
Yet, these two hens knew I have been alone since before Halloween and never ask how I'm doing (even though I always asked how they were when their hubbies were deployed), they NEVER ask if I want to do something yet the one with the heathen children I asked her to meet me in the BOI for lunch at a place of her choosing since she was up there too (much to Little A's disliking as he hates the type of food we had) and I'm always offering to let her have first dibs on anything K-girl has outgrown both clothes and toys wise for her daughter and she's always quick to check it out but that is all. They never say "How's your shoulder? It must suck to be a one armed single parent!"
I really shouldn't care as I'm usually shunned by the stay at home moms cause I am active duty military but it really hurts to see how they are doing all this stuff together all over facebook. The posts of "OMG, my bestie and I are so cool cause blah blah blah" are like "Hey Multi-tasked, we are just too cool for you and your I just have to have a career lifestyle". It's these types of women that have me just as confused about women as men and thinking that all women are crazy. I must say - this is also why my BFF is a guy - no catty behavior! We can go without talking for extended periods of time then when we do talk, it's like we had just talked the day before.
Gosh, I miss my BFF! He's normal and I never have to think WTF is going on with the way he thinks. Men are easy to understand!!!
